Is this just a crush? or more than a crush? should I give up or stay hopeful?

Okay, this is long but please take the time. I just want to explain my feelings so you guys can give me accurate answers.. please help?





so I like this guy, the older brother of my classmate. He's 19 and I'm 18. I really like him even though I don't really "know" him. Based on my research (aka: stalking), he's a really nice guy. He's religious, smart, and humble even though he's popular. He doesn't have a girlfriend, and I've been told that his last relationship was still in high school or early part of his college years, he's a junior in college now. He's in the volleyball varsity and of course a lot of girls are crushing on him. But I didn't know that he's in the varsity before I liked him (it means that I didn't like him because he's in the varsity or he's popular)





We never had a conversation. I was just introduced to him by my classmate.





My classmate's kind of a bully to me most of the time. He told me that I shouldn't count on it and that I have no chance with his brother. I couldn't tell if he's actually telling the truth and just helping me to move on or just being a douche like he normally is.. and I didn't ask him either if he's serious because he might say that I'm so foolish for even thinking I have a shot with his brother.





at first it was just a simple crush. But I've come to know that it grew and grew without me noticing. I've been single for a very long time and I've been looking for a stable relationship for quite some time. I'm not the kind of girl who settles for less than what she wants, 'cause I might regret it later. I want a guy who I know I can really love and take seriously. My type is the bad-boy-looking-good-boy and he's that! I feel that he's the guy for me.. but the problem is I know I have no chance with him.





I've had previous crushes, but this one is different! Before, I get frustrated of course if I know that I have no chance with the guy, but I let go easily.. I'll be like.. "eh, what the hell.." and in just a matter of weeks, I've forgotten all about the guy. But this time it's different, it's been more than a month and I want him more than ever. I get sad thinking that I have no shot with him, but at the same time I just can't let go. I'm still hoping. I also pray a lot, I pray more, I go to church even if it isn't a Sunday, that's how I badly want him. I keep dreaming of him too.





I know this is silly. But, what is this feeling? I feel like this is more than a crush.. but is it really possible that this is "love"? Cause I don't think it's possible to love someone if you hardly know him. Is this infatuation? I didn't know infatuation can bring complicated feelings. Also, what is the right thing to do.. give up or stay hopeful?





ps: I know this isn't obsession. If I'm obsessed then I should be waiting outside his school, his house, do some voodoo stuff to really get him. But it's not like that. Heck, i don't even follow him in Twitter or his friend in FB. I don't want to be one of those "fan girls" ;cause I'm not. I've liked him even before I found out he was in the varsity.|||Base on your long paragraphs, I can tell that you are a mature and intelligent young woman, which separate you from average girls. Plus you are religious, which is another great quality, even though praying is kinda naive. Believe in yourself, not in some sort of spiritual being that doesnt exist. No matter how much you pray, if you dont take actions about it, things will never change.





It is not healthy to stalk people and not talk to them. You might think that it is ok if you are not outside of his house creeping, or putting voodoo on him, but you really have a messed up mind if you reach that point. Instead of holding onto your precious self esteem, go and talk to him, you will only learn more no matter what he says. If he likes you, that is a huge reward, if he doesnt, at least you would know and move on without wasting anymore time. Win win situation. Its 21st century, dont expect guys with good qualities to chase after you because there are so many other girls who want the same guy, and certainly dont rely on praying to get things you want. If you are not willing to risk it, then you shouldnt go for him.





When you really love someone, you would do anything, even if it means that you have to ask him out. If you are not willing to risk it, then you didnt really love him afterall.|||Hey girl grow up. Try to cross his path and talk to him, smile at him, whatever. Don't just cream or hope. Take action please and then let us know. Best of luck.|||How do you know you don't have a chance with this guy? Because of what his brother said? Did it occur to you that maybe his brother has a crush on you and doesn't want you to date his brother. Yeah guys are funny like that. If they like a girl sometimes they act like a jerk towards her to hide the fact that they like her. I think it has to do with being afraid of rejection....lol